coddling vs immaturity

I have been having some disagreements/debates with my online friends regarding coddling of a slave and immaturity on the Master's end.  I am an adult and feel in a power exchange relationship that both should give to the relationship and to the other person.  However I don't want to be overly pampered or coddled, I need to be held accountable and to make corrections to displeasing behaviors.  But at the same time, I don't want to be chastised and degraded just because someone else needs an ego boost.  If I am wrong, then I am wrong.  But when I am right, the other person needs to suck it up and admit that they were wrong.  One friend in particular, has been lashing out rather dramatically the last few days -- from a professional point of view I can see that these behaviors are cries for reassurance and a sense of security.  As a slave, a pouty Master who is having a tantrum pisses me off.  If he cannot control his emotions, including his anger, then he will not be able to control another person. 

I don't believe in horoscopes but sometimes they are eerily accurate.  As I was thinking about these things yesterday, wondering how I fit into it... here is what my horoscope said:

Leo: Jan 15 2011.

Insecure people are often the ones who defend themselves the loudest, are the most aggressive about being catered to, and they often demand constant reassurance. In other words, they know that it's the squeaky wheel that gets the grease. Although you are rarely insecure, you could learn something from this. There is something you want to make happen. You feel confident that it should. But it may be better to approach the situation in a more assertive way. Put a spotlight on the issue, and you'll be sure to get what you need.

Leo Woman

Leo Woman

July 23 TO August 23

Slogan: I Will, Therefore I am.

GENERAL CHARACTERISTICS:

Leo the celestial lion is the sign that rules the heart. That part of our anatomy in which it is said, many of our highest virtues reside.

The Leo woman is the embodiment of honor loyalty, faithfulness, and trust when at her best, however, she must to take care about her tendency to develop an exaggerated sense of self-importance.

The heart is the centre of the circulatory system, in representation the centre of life and, often the Leo women can feel that she is the centre of every life situation in which she finds himself.

While the immature Leo lion cub can be quite self-cantered and very demanding of the attention of those around her, the mature Leo the lion can act quite differently in that her heart is boundless in its generosity and she is not continually fixated on the focus of her own needs and desires.

Leo also represents the sun and the sun never exhausts its fuel.

The truly caring Leo woman is a person whose sun casts no shadows but burns brightly to bring light, heat, and warmth to everyone and everything around her.

Alternatively, the more self-cantered Leo tends to mistakes her friends for admirers, she uses other people’s creative energy to advance her own purposes, and will give very little of herself but her projected ego.

MONEY & FINANCES:

The Leo woman likes to spend her money in such manner that the results can be seen. She favours flashy clothes, outstanding jewelery and home furnishings, plus, of course very expensive cars.

A wealthy Leo woman will tend to invest in up market art works and artefacts.

She can be very generous with children and friends, will buy special gifts for her loved ones and will, more than likely, be the one to pay the bill in restaurants

A reality in the life of the Leo woman, is to learn that even the wealthiest within this world need to save and conserve some of their income.

RELATIONSHIPS:

A Leo woman is the embodiment of the romantic: the passionate, the poetic, the ardent, and the adoring. Never doubt however, that she expects her love to be returned with the same intensity of enthusiasm, passion and devotion.

More often than not the Leo woman’s love can become somewhat overwhelming and very possessive. While this can be rather flattering initially, over time the Leo girl needs to lean to ease of a bit in order to give her partner a chance recover,

The Leo woman’s pride is always at stake, and no matter how loudly she roar’s, here ego is delicate and fragile.

She is a girl who likes to know that she is being appreciated and, when so, in return she will be incredibly kind and generous.

Any partner to this Leo girl will need to be very strong and, of a somewhat independent nature, otherwise romance within any relationship will become subject to domination by this Leo the lion girl.

People born under the signs of Aries, Sagittarius, and Libra relate well with the Leo woman.

Good friendships can arise with Virgo and Pisces folk but Aquarius, Taurus, and Scorpio can present a challenge

Considerable harmonization will be necessary in any relationships with those of the Cancer or Capricorn sign.

Randomness of Loss, Part Two

Normally I would not have "aired dirty laundry" like I did in my previous post this morning. I did NOT mean any of it badly at all because I have no doubt that if I truly was in a situation where I needed Grace, MathMan or Pixie, they would be there in an absolute heart beat. I just feel guilty bothering them with my own grief when I know they have so much going on. And no I'm not trying to be a martyr. lol I know what I am going through is also important, I just also know it will pass... so I'm trying to wait it out.

Did I mention my horoscope this morning? I just read it, two hours after the previous post. Check it out:

LEO: You want some quiet time today so you can explore childhood memories, yet you won't likely find exactly what you are seeking. Naturally, your perspective is changing, but you still could be reluctant to declare a new allegiance. Nevertheless, you gain power from expressing yourself with integrity. The depth of your convictions is intense, so don't be afraid to say what's on your mind so others know where you stand.

~ cue the theme for Twilight Zone