Thursday, December 3, 2009

Wrong Expectations


I hate being a submissive because…
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I hate being submissive when every guy expects me to enjoy waiting on Someone hand and foot, doing every ounce of domestic work (from cooking and cleaning to picking up his nasty underwear from the floor and taking out the trash). I don’t understand why a male expects a female to transform into their mother?! I have mentioned this in previous posts, but I am NOT the kind of girl that wants to come home from working all day to become a happy maid, so he doesn’t have to get out of that chair, and then leap into his bed as an energetic slut. If I have one more guy ask me to be his “domestic and sexual slave”, I’m going to scream! Why can’t he buy an old woman grandma type and a hooker? And leave me alone.


If both people in a relationship are working, then I believe that chores at home should be shared. This is the year 2009! If He is not working, he can bet his happy ass I won't be burning my candle at both ends, working and then coming home to clean up after him. Having a vagina does not mean I am the only one that is allowed to touch cleaning products in the house! If I wanted someone to pick up after, I would have had a child. I want a real Man, Someone who knows that His business/domestic actions are not limited to a mythological masculine stereotype.
I think my whole problem with the thoughts of being the only person in the house doing any form of cleaning and having a maternal role over my Partner... is that both instances make me feel my Partner is both lazy and he doesn’t care one way or the other. So how can I trust myself, my heart my mind my body, to a “guy” who is so lazy he can’t do anything around the house or truly doesn’t care about me or our living environment? How is he going to be there for me when I need him? He wouldn’t be able to function on his own, or if I were to have a really bad flare-up (of my fibromyalgia)? Plus it doesn't allow things I do to become a service to Someone, when it turns into chores that I have to do because he feels he is above them.


In my mind, that whole concept (of domestic tasks being women’s work) is stupid and unrealistic. Things would be different if my Owner/Master/Daddy decided that He could support me and my needs, and it would be best for me not to work... then yes I would take care of things at home. But to assume that these are my life goals and my only ambition, denies/ignores everything educated and intelligent about me. Are these kind of guys so afraid of a real women they will do anything to "keep her at home", sheltered away from the world that she doesn't realize she could do better?


Yes I want to do things to please my Owner/Master/Daddy, and yes I want to make things easier for Him and make Him happy... But for SOMEONE TO EXPECT IT FROM ME JUST BECAUSE I AM SUBMISSIVE, is what ticks me off to no end!

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