Dynamics

Which master has more control and power? One that has to force or coheres his sub to do things or one whose sub willingly does things out of love.

~topic provided by a Friend

There is more to being a master than barking orders or forcing someone's will to obey your own. Just as there is more to being a submissive/slave than abandoning the ability to think and becoming a doormat for anyone to walk on. There is a special connection that can be established between Master and submissive/slave in which her desire to please him out weighs her own will, so she happily lays it down for his own. Within this connection, the Master makes decisions that are best for the girl and himself, putting her wellbeing before his own physical desires.

Realistically there are times that the girl must bite the bullet and do as He would desire, because we are human and no one is perfect all of the time. Just as there are times that He must bite the bullet and either do what is best for her or admit he was wrong -- because we are human and no one is perfect all the time.

So which would be more powerful or in more control? The way I see it, only one of those men is a master. The condescending one who barks orders to anyone who will listen, is an asshole. :)

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